"Fat acceptance doesn’t say, “There’s no such thing as a person who eats herself fat.” Fat acceptance does say, “You can’t assume all fat people have eaten themselves fat, and you can’t tell who has and who hasn’t just by looking, and **it’s a private and personal fricking issue anyway, not some horrible morality violation, so butt the hell out.**”"
"We are prescribing for fat people what we diagnose as disordered eating in thin people."
"You would think that fat individuals would breathe a sigh of relief at hearing that fat isn’t changeable. Experts often tout this belief when arguing against fat acceptance. … In fact, I have had people sneer or laugh at my work, but when someone gets upset at me, even furious, they are almost always very fat. In my experience, most fat people desperately want to be thinner and will try anything and everything to get that way.
When I tell them they have very little chance of ever being slim, I am telling them that, with our society as it is, they will always be socially unacceptable.
When I tell someone they have no hope of being thinner, I tell them they have no hope of this changing, unless they are willing to fight in order to change society – a much bigger job than a diet. No wonder people are willing to mutilate their bodies and risk death in order to be thinner. That is, most fat individuals would do anything to be socially acceptable."
"As almost always happens when I’m in the media, they brought up the concern that I am “promoting obesity”. I’ve observed that this happens almost any time a fat person is shown in the media being good at anything or having any kind of success not tied to weight loss. This is among the most ridiculous things that I’ve ever heard. As if someone will see me dancing and think “I wish I could dance like that. The secret must be her obesity – screw dance lessons, I’m going to try to get fat!”. It’s insulting to my years of hard work and training, and it’s insulting to your intelligence. Like’s it the new V8 commercial: millions of thin people, who see the same 386,170 negative messages a year about fat people, will see one of us being successful in some way, smack their foreheads and say “I coulda been fat!”
Not to mention that if we follow the “logic” that putting fat people in the public eye as anything other than the confirmation of a stereotype or an ad for stomach amputation is “promoting obesity”, then what we are actually saying is that fat people should never see anyone who looks like them in a positive light. We seriously believe that the best thing that we can do is make sure that fat people should never see someone who looks like them being active or successful or happy. How messed up is that? How cruel? First you tell fat people that they are all lazy, unsuccessful, and unloveable, then you purposefully hide all the evidence to the contrary under the guise of not “promoting obesity”, then you use the lack of evidence that you created to “prove” that all fat people are lazy, unsuccessful and unloveable. Step three: Profits! Sixty billion a year, in fact, for the diet industry."
"I’m sad to say that I’ve been inculcated with enough societal garbage that I occasionally hate my own body—but as a thin (white, able-bodied, etc.) person I cannot fathom what it must be like to have others take it upon themselves to hate my body for me. As I’ve said before, if you think fat people have no self-discipline, consider the fact that they haven’t killed you yet."
Right this minute, there is someone going through chemotherapy shopping at your grocery store, buying popsicles and ice cream to help their sore mouth, and worrying what the cashier is going to think.
There is someone on hemodialysis buying white bread instead of whole wheat, trying to keep their phosphorus levels reasonable between appointments and hoping for the best.
There is a person attending intensive outpatient treatment for their eating disorder who has been challenged by their therapist to buy a Frappuccino.
There are dietitians picking up a dozen different candy bars to eat with their clients, who feel ashamed and guilty about enjoying them.
There is someone who just doesn’t have it in them to cook right now, and this frozen pizza and canned soup will keep them going.
There are people recovering from chronic dieting and semi-starvation who are buying chocolate and chips at their deprived body’s insistence.
All around us are people listening to what their bodies need and attempting to make the best possible choice within a context of overwhelming food pressure. All of their choices are valid, and every single one of these foods is “real.”"
…and sometimes, perfectly healthy people just don’t give a fuck and will eat a whole box of cookies by themselves.
Let’s just eat and be and and thankful we have any of this stuff to cram in our mouths.
Get the fuck out of my fridge with your nosey-ass self.
A total of 1077 stigmatizing events were reported on the SSI for a daily average of 3.08 events per individual. Consistent with previous research, 11 categories of the SSI were assessed. The highest percentages of participants reported experiencing “physical barriers” (84%), “nasty comments from others” (74%), “being stared at” (72%), and “others making negative assumptions” (72%). Events least frequently reported included the following: “job discrimination” (22%), “comments from doctors” (16%), and “being physically attacked” (12%).